valentine’s day edition..

i wrote this this past weekend and wanted to reiterate on the importance of not settling..

in the wake of Valentine’s Day, many people feel obligated to find someone to be their valentine or depressed because they don’t have someone in their life.

this is an encouragement for those people to remain strong and not settle during this “lover’s holiday”

“don’t settle for cupid’s chokehold”

when it comes to valentine’s day, most guys don’t feel the need to celebrate it like women do except for those in relationships. i hope in their case, they better not forget. if they do, they are in trouble with a capital  “T.”

most guys, how do i say, think everyday is their valentine’s play day because their focus seems always about women, checking the “hotties” out and trying to “get some.” well here is how we “men” should treat women…

1 John 4:7
“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.”

1 Tim. 5:1-2
“Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.”

God calls us not to respect “chicks” “hotties” “pieces of meat” or any other name you may have for them but as our sisters in Christ.
Don’t play games with women because you are in the game and you just “want some.” treat them with respect and equality because God created them and us in His image.
if you have problems with women and never understood why you aren’t getting the girl you deserve, perhaps it is because you are looking in the wrong places. instead of finding them at clubs, parties, etc. why don’t you focus on God and follow because the Bible says that if you trust the Lord with all your heart, He will give you the desires of your heart.

so, think twice next time you lust because Jesus knows your heart’s intentions.

For those of you struggling with singleness and are ever so tempted to get into a relationship you know you shouldn’t get into, check this..

Ecclesiastes 3:1, 5

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven.. a time to embrace and a time to refrain,  a time to search and a time to give up.”

Song of Solomon 2:7

“Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.”

Remember this. The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing. Before engaging into a relationship to satisfy any voids in your heart, always think about what your intentions and motives are. If you are not ready and it is not your season for a relationship, don’t rush into it because these quick, temporary relationships never last.

If you think you’ve found “the one” for you, the best thing to do is wait, build up that friendship and allow God to continue to work in the both of you. Also, during this period, make God the focus of your lives and not each other. Why? If you allow God to be first in your life and set up a solid foundation, you can help each other overcome any obstacle the world throws at you. Charm is deceitful, beauty is fleeing, but the word of God is forever.

Jesus Loves You