Valentine’s Hope, Not Despair

TEAM KGKL Nate Carlson

A man’s [moral] self shall be filled with the fruit of his mouth; and with the consequence of his words he must be satisfied [whether good or evil]. Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in to shall eat the fruit of it [for death or life]. He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. (Proverbs 18:20-22, AMP)

 Ok, I admit, I have been watching season 16 of The Bachelor. The comments of the ladies that get sent home always strike a chord in me and I want to tell them the truth about the plans that Jesus has for their lives. They always speak hopeless and hurtful lies over their lives. What they believe in their hearts’ come out of their mouths. For example, “there is something wrong with me. I believe there is no hope for me. There is nobody out there that could be my husband whom I could have children with. What am I doing wrong?”

My heart goes out to every woman in their late 20’s and 30’s that think and speak this way. I would bet to say that many men in similar situations have made analogous statements about themselves regarding their search after a wife.

 You can say these depressing things so many times over your life that you begin to believe the lie and forget to wake up everyday with hope – a joyful expectation of good. Many would retort: “I don’t want to have hope or expectations anymore because I don’t want to end up disappointed and discouraged once again.”

Wait! Who chooses to feel disappointed? You do. I’m not blaming, I’m shedding light on a harmful thought process, in order to empower you to enjoy life and be a joy towards others.

 Let’s go back to the concept of starting each day with hope – joyful expectations. The source of your hope and joy is important because if will determine the level of your expectations and ability to bounce back from what many call disappointment. The only true source of hope and joy is Jesus Christ. How can I say this with certainty? He created you, which makes Him the author of emotions and feelings. When Jesus is your Lord and ruler of your life and emotions, you become strong and the joy that only He can give to you becomes your greatest strength. This is a principle of God’s Word. In the book of Nehemiah, chapter seven and eight, the Israelite people were just brought back from captivity where they lived in years of disappointment and discouragement. As they gathered back together in Jerusalem, which had newly rebuilt walls, the Word of the Lord God came to them proclaiming: dream again, laugh again, receive true joy again!

 …Do not sorrow, for the joy of the Lord is your strength. (Nehemiah 8:10, NKJV)

 I like what the Amplified Bible Version states, that “…the joy of the Lord is your…stronghold (Nehemiah 8:10).” You can hold strong with God’s joy because it is not fake; it is solid and secure. The joy of Jesus will lift you up when the world says you should feel depressed. If you have this genuine Jesus-kind of joy, then you will already be living at a high level of expectation. A stronghold has high walls, when perched upon these walls you have the vantage point to see beyond the walls of your current situation. When you have perspective, you can look to the horizon of hopeful expectation! Don’t let hope unfulfilled diminish you, let a joyful expectancy of God’s promises expand your capacity to receive all that God has in store for you! Read what the Word of God proclaims to you today:

 This resurrection life you received from God is not a timid, grave-tending life. It’s adventurously expectant, greeting God with a childlike “What’s next, Papa?” God’s Spirit touches our spirits and confirms who we really are. We know who he is, and we know who we are: Father and children. And we know we are going to get what’s coming to us—an unbelievable inheritance! We go through exactly what Christ goes through. If we go through the hard times with him, then we’re certainly going to go through the good times with him!

Meanwhile, the joyful anticipation deepens…That is why waiting does not diminish us, any more than waiting diminishes a pregnant mother. We are enlarged in the waiting. We, of course, don’t see what is enlarging us. But the longer we wait, the larger we become, and the more joyful our expectancy.

Meanwhile, the moment we get tired in the waiting, God’s Spirit is right alongside helping us along. If we don’t know how or what to pray, it doesn’t matter. He does our praying in and for us, making prayer out of our wordless sighs, our aching groans. He knows us far better than we know ourselves, knows our pregnant condition, and keeps us present before God. That’s why we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good.

God knew what he was doing from the very beginning. He decided from the outset to shape the lives of those who love him along the same lines as the life of his Son. The Son stands first in the line of humanity he restored. We see the original and intended shape of our lives there in him. After God made that decision of what his children should be like, he followed it up by calling people by name. After he called them by name, he set them on a solid basis with himself. And then, after getting them established, he stayed with them to the end, gloriously completing what he had begun.

So, what do you think? With God on our side like this, how can we lose? If God didn’t hesitate to put everything on the line for us, embracing our condition and exposing himself to the worst by sending his own Son, is there anything else he wouldn’t gladly and freely do for us? (Romans 8:15-17, 21, 24-32, TMB)

The Word of God speaks for itself. Get God’s perspective this Valentine’s Day and speak hope instead of bitterness and discouragement! The joy of the Lord is your strength and Jesus loves you and is working on your behalf.


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